Confidants, Constituents & Comrades

Confidants, Constituents & Comrades

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A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity. Proverbs 17:17 (ESV)

Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor. Romans 12:10 (ESV)

I read this devotional by Pastor Christopher McKee that I wanted to share here. He stated that nearly all key relationships can be broken down into three categories: confidants, constituents, and comrades.

Confidants: Are the lifelong relationships. They love you unconditionally, stand by you, have your back in good times as well as bad, and they have your best interests at heart. They do not use what they know about you for their own personal gain, nor do they seek to throw it back in your face.

Constituents:  Are those who share the same goals, values, and principles but, they are not always there for you. Having these types of individuals in your life is important as they do contribute to your energy, passion, and enthusiasm. And you can work with them to accomplish common goals and build bridges. However, do not expect constituents to have the same loyalty as confidants. Usually, these individuals are with you for a reason and a season, and then they move on.

Comrades: Are people who are attracted to you and are with you because of what you both stand for or stand against. They may not get to really know you and sometimes, may not even like you. However, on the field of “battle,” they will join you like soldiers to defeat the common enemy; once the fight is over, the relationship ends or at least cools to a great degree. Your only bond was the common enemy or goal.

After reading this I found it helpful and enlightening, in that it helps one to realize the different categories or roles people who come into your life fall into. Not saying this must be exact, but it does give a guideline to really think about various relationships and people you come across. It can be helpful in understanding individuals who come into your life. For example, when a constituent friend seems to fade away and is no longer active in your life, you can understand that this relationship was just for a reason and a season. It can help you realize that there should be no hard feelings, but you need to move on in life and not become upset because the relationship ended. Or there are those who may really be a comrade and you want them to become a confidant.

Regardless of the roles various people may play in your life, you should look to be a true child of God and to love and care for humanity as God expects.

Blessings, 

Angélique

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